When God Closes A Door

Let’s talk about something that most of us struggle with…closed doors.

Not the small ones. I’m talking about the big ones.

The job you didn’t get. The relationship that ended. The friendship you thought would last forever. Those doors can feel heavy when they close. Sometimes they close quietly. Sometimes they slam shut so loudly that you feel the echo for years. If we’re being honest, most times we take it personally. We wonder what we did wrong. We replay conversations in our minds. We question our decisions. Through experience, I’ve learned something that changed the way I look at closed doors: Some doors close because their assignment in your life is complete. Not every person, opportunity, or season is meant to be forever. Some things come into our lives to teach us something, redirect us, or prepare us for the next chapter.

The Relationship: When God Closes A Door

There was a time in my life when I was in a relationship with someone I truly believed I was going to marry.

You know that man you’re convinced is your husband?

Yeah…that one.

Well…CHILE...God slammed that door. LOL!!

But here’s the interesting part.

While we were together, we had meaningful conversations that ended up shaping my life in ways I didn’t expect.

At one point, I was having some challenges with my older son. I shared this with him and he encouraged me to have a real conversation with my son instead of just sitting with the frustration.

So I did...

That conversation cleared up things that had been lingering between my son and I, and to this day we are good. We understand each other on a deeper level, and I am forever grateful that we were able to communicate our needs to each other.

Another time we talked about how much I was working.

At the time, I was a full-time graduate student (Completed earning a 3.94 GPA...I can do hard things LOL). I had a full-time job, a part-time job and I received two certifications from a separate university...I know, I was doing way too much!! I didn't see that then, I was just "doing what needed to be done"...(I'm so glad I BURNED my superwoman cape). I was constantly moving, constantly working, constantly pushing. He suggested that I ask my daughter how she felt about how busy I was.

So, again, I did...

When I sat down to talk with her, she told me something that stopped me in my tracks. Most importantly, it did bother her that I was gone so much…but she had gotten used to it because I had always been such a workaholic. That conversation changed something in me. That’s when I started slowing down so I could be more present with my children.

The Door That Led Me Back to Church

Since he lived in another state, I suggested that we start watching church together on Sundays. So that's what we did, and we choose his church...something beautiful came out of that.

A short time later that became the church I joined and is still home for me today, many years later. I have never felt so connected, and from the first Sunday, I thought YES, I feel at home here!!

Now think about that for a moment...

A relationship that didn’t last forever still led me back to church, God. It strengthened my relationship with my children. It caused me to reevaluate how I was spending my time and energy. That’s a pretty significant assignment. So, when that door closed, I was okay with it. I realized something important. His role in my life was never meant to be permanent. His assignment was to help guide me back toward what truly mattered. Once that assignment was complete…the door closed.

The Closed Door That Led to SoftLuxxe

One of the biggest reminders that God is intentional in my life is the story behind 💖SoftLuxxe💖

There was a job opportunity I was genuinely looking forward to. In fact, it was one of those situations where everyone around me was confident that I was going to be selected. Some people didn’t even apply because they assumed the position was already mine. Others were giving references for me without me even asking. By every logical measure, it felt like a sure thing.

Then, I didn’t get the job...

At the time, that door closing felt confusing. However, looking back now, I see it differently. That moment created the space that led me to start SoftLuxxe, and building this brand has been one of the greatest things I’ve ever done for myself. What I thought I was looking for in that new role could never compare to what I’ve discovered in the process of building something of my own. There are moments when I reflect on the journey and I can't do anything but thank God, with tears in my eyes...Most importantly, who I found has been far greater than what I thought I was looking for. God has brought me to a place of peace, freedom and expectation. I expect great things now. I anticipate joy. I'm surrendering to His plan, so when I rest, baby I rest!! My favorite thing to do is go sit down somewhere, okay! LOL!! Sometimes the gratitude just overflows, and tears of JOY flow!!!

I'm always reminded that, God knows exactly what He's doing when He closes a door.

And for that…I am deeply thankful.

Self-Reflection Moment

Take a moment and think about this, honestly:

Is there a door in your life that closed that you’re still grieving, when it may have actually been guiding you somewhere better?

So instead of asking “Why did this happen to me?” try asking:

“What did this prepare me for?”

That small shift can change everything.

Affirmations for the Week

✨ I trust that every door meant for me will open at the right time.

✨ What God removes from my life is never greater than what He has prepared and waiting for me.

✨ I am always being guided toward opportunities, relationships, and paths that align with my purpose.

Thank you for sharing this space with me today🌻

I would like to share what I carried with me from church last Sunday..."When it's time for God to promote/bless you, He will go where He told you to be, not where you went".

God is intentional...what's supposed to be, simply is. Thank Him for closing that door, and ask Him where He wants you to be. You're not waiting on Him, He's waiting on you...I promise, where He leads you will always exceed what you thought or even could imagine...Ephesians 3:20-21

Closing Prayer

God, thank You for the doors You open and the ones You lovingly close. Help us trust Your wisdom even when we don’t immediately understand Your decisions. Give us peace in seasons of transition and confidence that You are always guiding us toward what is best for our lives. Remind us that nothing we lose in obedience to You is ever truly lost. We trust Your timing, Your protection, and Your plan. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 🤍

Until next time...I'm sending you light, love and rest🥂

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