If It Costs Me My Peace, I Don’t Want It: God-Led Soft Life and How I’m Slowing Down and Softening Up On Purpose

Listen love, before we get into this post, I need you to hear me on this. In order to truly live a soft, ease-filled, joy-centered life, you’ve got to be thankful, grateful, and keep God at the heart of it all.

Every morning when I open my eyes, I thank God for the day. It’s not just habit, it’s how I set the tone for everything that follows. And just like my mornings, Sundays are nonnegotiable for me. Sunday service is a must.

Even if I’m traveling. Even if I’m exhausted. If I can watch it on TV, stream it from my phone, or listen to it on the radio while I drive, I do. We don’t miss Sunday service over here.

Let me tell you, it does something to my spirit. It realigns me. It reminds me that God sees me, loves me, and still wants immeasurably more for me. Ephesians 3:20-21

I saw a quote one day that said: “If you ever feel far from God, remember, He’s not the one who moved.”

Whew. Say that again!!!

You are loved. You are necessary. You are worthy of softness, abundance, and joy in every room you walk into. Now let’s get into this post✨

Let me tell you how I start my mornings, this helps to set the tone for my day...Before my eyes even fully open, I thank God for the day. No matter what’s waiting on my to-do list, my very first words are gratitude. I speak life over my day before anyone else gets a word in. “God, let this day be light. Let my spirit be soft. Cover me in peace, in joy, and in Your presence.”

Then, I drink a glass of water. Not coffee. Not emails. Not TikTok. Just pure, clean water and a quiet moment to thank Him for another sunrise. I try to give myself a little time before adding caffeine or outside noise to my spirit. And honestly, that one tiny act has helped to changed my whole mood.

What’s the first thing you do when you wake up? Is it peace or pressure? Drop it in the comments, I’m curious.

✨ Beauty… Are You Tired Too?

Who else feels like life’s been on 100 lately? Like…if one more notification pops up or one more person asks “you got a minute?” I might just relocate to a cottage with bad Wi-Fi and a vintage record player.

With everything that is going on these days, I know that I’m not alone in this. Drop a 🙋🏽‍♀️ if you’ve been running on fumes, looking cute on the outside but quietly exhausted on the inside.

That was me, until God whispered: “If you don’t slow down, you’ll miss the life I’ve been trying to give you.”

And while we’re here, can we retire the idea that constant stress is a badge of honor? Busy doesn’t always equal successful. If my peace, my mental health, or my joy are taking a hit…I don’t want it. Period. I’ve worked too hard to build a life that feels good, not just one that looks good.

✨ 3 SoftLuxxe Ways I’m Slowing Down and Choosing Joy (That You Can Steal Today)

✨ 1. Romanticizing the Boring Stuff

You know those little moments you usually rush through? I’ve started turning them into mini rituals.

While my coffee brews, I light a candle and whisper a prayer. In the car? Jazz playlist on, pretending I’m in an old school film. Washing dishes? Wine glass in hand, soft love playlist, and main character energy.

What’s one “boring” thing you could glam up today? Drop it in the comments, inspire us!

✨ 2. Making Joy Non-Negotiable

I’m done saving the good perfume for date nights. I wear it to Trader Joes. I play Beyoncé ballads while folding towels like I’m on tour. I buy myself flowers because my name’s on the bank card.

When’s the last time you did something just because it made you happy? No reason. No guilt. No explaining. If you can’t remember…it’s time to start.

✨ 3. Talking to God About Everything (The MOST Important Rule)

Not just the heavy stuff, everything. From business meetings to what color I should get on my nails this week.“ Lord, soft pink or neutral chic? Drop a sign.” LOL

It keeps me connected, keeps me grounded, and reminds me that even the smallest things matter to Him.

Do you talk to God outside of crisis mode? Try it. It’ll soften your whole spirit.

✨ The Truth Is…You Deserve a God-Led Soft Life That Feels Good

This isn’t about perfection. Or Pinterest aesthetics. It’s about slowing down long enough to realize you don’t have to earn softness, joy, or rest. It’s your birthright. It’s your inheritance. You’re allowed to have a God-led soft life. No milestone required. No permission slip needed.

So tell me… what’s one tiny, soft, beautiful thing you’re claiming for yourself this week?

I’ll go first: a new playlist for my evening showers and fresh flowers for my nightstand. Because if it costs me my peace…I don’t want it. I also am not waiting for everything to "be okay", I need softness, joy and ease NOW!

Are you with me? ✨

Let me know in the comments how you add softness to your life, or something you would like to start doing. Lets inspire each other to love on ourselves more 🥰

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