Soft Upgrades: Notes From My Luxxe Files

Hi, there💖...I'm shifting gears a little with this week’s post, in the best way. I’ve been praying, thinking, some more thinking (LOL), and really sitting with what direction I want this blog to take. Then I realized: Why choose one direction when my life is made up of so many?

So from here on out, I'll be talking about ALL of the things that make up my SoftLuxxe Lifestyle: God first...luxury that doesn’t require a special occasion, self-care that actually feels good, doing the work (not just talking about it) and building a soft, elevated life now... not “one day.”

"Say your prayers…then move your feet".

I am happy to share four additional ways that you can add luxury into your life. No matter the season that you are in✨

1. Hair: But, Of Course 💅🏽

You already know the hair is going to be at the top of my list. There’s something about quality bundles and a clean install that changes your entire posture. Luxury hair isn’t about being “extra”, it’s about feeling polished, put-together, and cared for.

Good hair makes you move differently. You deserve to move like that every day.

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2. Soft Upgrades: Tailors + Shoe Doctors 👠

Finding a good tailor and a shoe doctor are soft upgrades to your entire wardrobe without buying one new thing.

Clothes that are made to fit your body? That’s luxury. Shoes that last because you cared for them? Also luxury.

I love my tailor, he has been able to make me fall back in love with some of my favorite pieces, fixed some dresses so I didn't regret my purchase and also transformed a few items to give a custom look!!

Those beautiful heels you used to love (and had to have) but can’t survive in anymore? Take that 4-inch stiletto down to a more comfortable 3-inch. A good shoe doctor can lower the heel so seamlessly you won’t even know they’ve been altered. Now you look good and you can walk comfortably in them...A WIN🎉

I've been choosing elevated comfort over pain and I will not go back to "beauty is pain", absolutely not!

3. Your Circle of Friends 🤍

This one is big...

Your circle affects how high you can rise. Your circle influences your confidence, clarity, and even how you dream. Your circle can keep you motivated…or quietly keep you small.

Your circle of friends are the people you call when something amazing happens and you can’t wait to share it. The ones who give honest perspective when you need a different angle. The ones who let you be happy, soft, excited, emotional, without judgment.

They are the people you're thinking about as you read this. How's that for confirmation? ☺️

A healthy circle feels like support, not competition. Let me be clear: The people you keep around you while you build your life are just as important as the life you’re building.

Choose well🌹

4. Soft Makeup + Mani/Pedi Energy 💅🏽

Nothing says quiet luxury like a soft beauty routine. It's clean, gives a beautiful glow and is intentional.

One thing I'm loving right now? A tinted moisturizer. My favorite one, has been Chanel, Les Beiges Water-Fresh Tint. It blurs in all the right places and lets my skin breathe. I still look like me, just well-rested.

I have also made the switch to brown eyeliner and brown mascara. It looks softer, warmer, and way less harsh than Black, it defines without overpowering. It gives the "is she wearing makeup look".

Pair that with a fresh mani/pedi and you’re all set.

Small gem💎 Some of your favorite fragrances come in travel and trial sizes, so you can smell like luxury without overspending. and try new scents without the commitment of purchasing a larger size and not loving it. Smart and soft? Yes 😊

I love these travel size bottles

Taking care of yourself is never superficial, it’s sacred.

The way you present yourself is an act of gratitude. And gratitude is luxury.

Affirmations for a Luxurious Life🥂

• I am worthy of beauty, softness, and abundance.

• God’s blessings flow through me and around me daily.

• My peace, joy, and glow are evidence of God’s grace.

"I create luxury by showing up for myself with love"

Reflection Question

What’s one small way you can love on yourself this week? Let me in the comments👇🏽

Prayer🙏🏽

Dear God, Thank You for reminding me that luxury isn’t just what I have, it’s how I live. How I show up for myself. Help me to carry grace, gratitude, and softness into everything I do. Let my presence reflect peace, my work reflect purpose, and my life reflect Your goodness. Amen. 🤍

Final Thoughts

All luxury is not about money, it’s about intention. It’s about treating yourself with care today, not waiting for the “perfect” time. It’s about elevating your everyday life with things that make YOU feel good, calm, confident, and connected to who you’re becoming. Cheers to your higher self LOVE💎

Thank you for the time you took to read my "Note" 😉 See you in a couple of weeks!!

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